few many things which you begin to realize only after getting married. I knew my better half for more than two years before getting married. He seemed like the perfect man and I’m assuming he too had similar thoughts about me. In college, he was always well dressed, well groomed, had different file folders for different subjects with labels on them(woah!!), spoke well, always wore good perfume, always had money in his wallet (lol) and a perfectionist. Anyway, every story has a perfect fairy tale ending because it ends with the Prince and Princess getting married. It never talks about the next day after the big wedding. So, I have decided to pen down random thoughts that paraded my mind the NEXT DAY.
All of a sudden, you have to share everything with your husband, starting with the toothpaste. When I was not married, I had the freedom of squeezing out the toothpaste however I liked. As long as the end result is achieved, i.e the toothpaste is on the toothbrush, I really don’t care about the technical details. But now, this husband of mine is already being judgmental about the way the toothpaste tube looks and he goes ahead and comments on the way my toothbrush looks after I have used it. And trust me, it’s been seven years and this discussion still happens.
One would assume that a person with so much perfection would be flawless in everything. I learnt a very important lesson that nothing is predictable in marriage. As we happily flew down to Kerala for our honeymoon, little did I know that my husband packed his bag just few minutes before boarding the flight. My bag was packed for Kerala a month before our wedding and I was still worried if I had forgotten something, but my husband, on the other hand, did not pack anything of importance and we had to go shopping straight from the airport even before going to the hotel. Now, it was my turn to be judgmental about how can a person manage to be so casual. This continues to remain the same too. In fact, it has become worse as I cannot tolerate procrastination and end up packing for both of us. Of course, once the packing is done, the perfectionist finds faults and everything has to be redone.
I love beaches, he loves hill stations.
I love chicken, he loves mutton
I love continental, he loves Chinese
I love watching romantic movies, he loves action
I love reading, he loves music
I love swimming, he totally hates it
I love going out, he likes staying in
I love parks, he loves malls
What on earth are we supposed to do together!!!???
Whenever I think about our marriage, I realize that God has a beautiful sense of humour. He makes two people who are not at all similar to each other, fall in love with each other so much that by the time they realize that they are so different than the other person, they are already married. BOOM!!
Does the love fade away with this realization?? Not at all!!
His passion for music inspired me to learn music. My love for swimming encouraged him to try even though getting wet is not his favorite thing. Sometimes he takes me out; sometimes we stay home and watch TV. I started eating Chinese with him; he started eating Continental with me. Sometimes we watch romantic movies and sometimes action movies. We enjoy hill stations in summer and beaches in winter. The monotonous life that I had with my own passions and interests has now acquired new flavor as my husband’s passions and interests got added to it. Life is now sweet and spicy, just the way I like it. Some believe that Marriages are made in Heaven and I truly agree to that. Only God can find that missing puzzle piece which is so different yet fits so perfectly into your life!!